Live to Make Your Dreams Reality
There’s so many beautiful differences about each individual human that create a richness in life. Unfortunately, we have created fears from our differences; fears of rejection and need for acceptance. If we don't look, act, or think a certain way we're flawed. I challenge you to respect yourself and stop trying to live to please others. You were given so many talents and passions to keep you as an individual, you need to live to make your dreams reality!
When I was growing up I had the goal of being just like my older sister Katie. She is so beautiful, hilarious, kind, and has an incredible taste in fashion. Katie can also dance, I can't. I did all the sports growing up, but in 2009 I had to do dance team because if I was to be like Katie, I had to get good at dance. Well to sum up this story, I hated dance class. My movements looked like a bull in a china closet. The real crappy thing about 2009 is that I didn't make any of the sports teams I tried out for either! All my friends were on the team, my family had expected me to make the teams, I didn't know who I was not being on the teams! I felt publicly rejected and ashamed. In my 14 year old mind, I felt I had lost the purpose to live.
My mom brought me in a speech someone had given titled "Don't be afraid to fail". I can't remember who the author is now, but the gist of this speech covered the failures of mighty people, such as Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Babe Ruth, Michael Jordan. It talked about how we do not remember these men for their failures but their success. Why is that? Because they did not allow failure to define them.
Everything I was living for up to these life altering experiences was so that I could be like or be with someone else. I discovered after a lot of tears and ice cream that if my life was to continue and I was to find lasting happiness I had to be the creator and master of my life. I chose to quit dance, and find other ways to spend quality time with my sister. I started spending hours practicing on my own and at sport camps to ensure that I had done everything I could to qualify for the teams next season. It was uncomfortable. I was shy and felt dumb walking into a place alone. I felt inferior because I wasn't as good as the others at the camps. I wanted to quit many times. Thanks to my loving and always supporting parents who new that my passion for these sports was greater than my fears, I didn't quit. The next year, and every season after that, I made the teams I tried out for. I continued to go to extra camps and to challenge myself to always be improving so that I never faced that specific fear of failing again.
As I've grown up a bit, I've gone through much worse events. I've had much bigger dreams! But the lesson I learned back in 2009 remains true.When we chase after our dreams, understand that we are going to fail, the route to success is uncomfortable and hard! The trick is to learn to fail fast and fail forward. Failure shows that we are alive and that we are making progress. Goals and dreams guide this progress and create a meaningful adventure to look back on. Surround yourself with those that are going to motivate you for success, but do not rely on them for that sense of success or worth. It is up to you to make your life worth living.
Your dreams are possible! In the process you are going to incur a lot of disappointment and pain, I hate to say it but if you know this you can prepare accordingly. Your going to doubt yourself, but do NOT give up on your dreams. The rough times have not come to stay they have come to pass! Begin with the end in mind by examining why your life is worth living. Be true to your own values and dreams, then make no excuses and live your dream!
Remember, "This is either going to a great success or we are going to have a great story to tell....So basically we're on the verge of greatness".
Everything I was living for up to these life altering experiences was so that I could be like or be with someone else. I discovered after a lot of tears and ice cream that if my life was to continue and I was to find lasting happiness I had to be the creator and master of my life. I chose to quit dance, and find other ways to spend quality time with my sister. I started spending hours practicing on my own and at sport camps to ensure that I had done everything I could to qualify for the teams next season. It was uncomfortable. I was shy and felt dumb walking into a place alone. I felt inferior because I wasn't as good as the others at the camps. I wanted to quit many times. Thanks to my loving and always supporting parents who new that my passion for these sports was greater than my fears, I didn't quit. The next year, and every season after that, I made the teams I tried out for. I continued to go to extra camps and to challenge myself to always be improving so that I never faced that specific fear of failing again.
As I've grown up a bit, I've gone through much worse events. I've had much bigger dreams! But the lesson I learned back in 2009 remains true.When we chase after our dreams, understand that we are going to fail, the route to success is uncomfortable and hard! The trick is to learn to fail fast and fail forward. Failure shows that we are alive and that we are making progress. Goals and dreams guide this progress and create a meaningful adventure to look back on. Surround yourself with those that are going to motivate you for success, but do not rely on them for that sense of success or worth. It is up to you to make your life worth living.
Your dreams are possible! In the process you are going to incur a lot of disappointment and pain, I hate to say it but if you know this you can prepare accordingly. Your going to doubt yourself, but do NOT give up on your dreams. The rough times have not come to stay they have come to pass! Begin with the end in mind by examining why your life is worth living. Be true to your own values and dreams, then make no excuses and live your dream!
Remember, "This is either going to a great success or we are going to have a great story to tell....So basically we're on the verge of greatness".
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